especially the girls who\u2019re told not to do that. I wanted to say something, but I\u2019m not fond of walking into lions\u2019 dens for the hell of it. This, that no, our girls don\u2019t know how it works, is a ginormous problem. Not only do we not teach them what it is, what they\u2019re supposed to be abstaining from, we teach them they have to dress so as to keep the boys from wanting to make them do it.<\/p>\n
Then there\u2019s this: When Virgins Collide<\/a>, in which the newlyweds never do quite figure out how to do it right. I wonder where they are now and if they finally figured it out by trial and error or if they scraped up the courage to research the topic or if they gave up completely after kid number three. I shed tears to think that woman may never have an orgasm.<\/p>\n And this: Single, Female, Mormon, Alone<\/a>, in which a 32-year-old woman had to go to Planned Parenthood for a Pap smear and an IUD because, I guess, she didn\u2019t know she could call up a gynecologist to get that done. Seriously? Thirty-two? You\u2019ve never had an exam?<\/p>\n No, Big Name Important Mormon Writer Person, we don\u2019t<\/em><\/strong> all know how it works. Because useful, necessary details<\/em><\/strong> don\u2019t get passed along. Talk about purple words and euphemisms! And because we aren\u2019t taught, many of us have long-lasting difficulties trying to navigate something that\u2019s so much fun!<\/em><\/strong> Or should be. But no! Since we all know how it works, we\u2019re all having fun, right?<\/p>\n Theric<\/a>, who\u2019s my editor when he\u2019s available (he did Stay<\/em><\/a> and Magdalene<\/em><\/a>), reviewed Paso Doble<\/em><\/a>. He said this:<\/p>\n I know her work is too explicit for many Mormon writers, but I think you should read her anyway. We need to deal with sexuality more as a people and reading her work is a great place to consider how it can be done.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Yes, we do<\/em><\/strong> need to deal with sexuality more as a people because we\u2019re regressing, not progressing. Throwback Thursday on Facebook, wherein I see pictures of my (devout) cousins from the 60s, 70s, and early 80s, make the contrast between what was considered \u201cmodest\u201d then and what\u2019s considered \u201cmodest\u201d now makes that clear. We would be looked at askance now for what we were wearing then, when our (still) devout mothers were dressing us. I could see XX TD sent home from activity night for wearing what we wore then.<\/p>\n
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