Comments on: Spiritual erotica

By: MoJo

MoJo — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 18:29:57 +0000

[snicker]

By: Th.

Th. — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 18:20:57 +0000

”
…and getting ready to blow?
“

By: MoJo

MoJo — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 13:06:24 +0000

I think there are gradations of Dom/sub in every sexual relationship. They may never manifest very clearly, they may ebb and flow with the mood of the partner, they may switch out or change over time, and/or it may just be an emotional thing, but I don’t think any long-term committed relationship is ever truly equal all the time.

By: Eva Gale

Eva Gale — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 12:34:58 +0000

Before I started writing erotica I had no idea that simply tying up your partner-or even WANTING TO- was a Don/sub expression. I wasn’t paying attention to the slight powerplays that could happen within the bedroom and how they expressed themselves. So when you start writing it, and YOU know what it is, but it’s the reader’s first foray- it’s quote …interesting.

By: MoJo

MoJo — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 21:35:09 +0000

Which pun are you speaking of, precisely? 😉

The word that comes to mind for me is “oxymoron.” (Er, oxymormon?)

By: Th.

Th. — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 20:41:10 +0000

Again, I read this post, and all I want to say is “Bad pun.” I have a feeling I’ll never get over this.

By: Tyler

Tyler — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 18:23:25 +0000

I’ll have to keep my eyes open for it.

By: MoJo

MoJo — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 18:17:38 +0000

He (Bryce) is one of the characters in my book. The excerpt is here, but you won't see any of that from that little bit. He's arguably the most scarred character in the book (IMO). Let me say this: He leans toward a dom/sub sexual expression and he spent his life thinking that by simply having those desires, he was sinful and thus, didn't attempt to seek out a woman of faith along those lines. He then has a crisis of faith and casts everything aside to find what he wants. Only, he doesn't really cast it aside, which he realizes at the "ritual death" part of his story. In any case, the book will be out some time around Halloween.

By: Tyler

Tyler — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 18:12:36 +0000

I’d be interested to read your treatment of that character. Is the story anywhere accessible?

By: MoJo

MoJo — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 17:53:33 +0000

Why are so many people afraid of sex and their own sexuality?

I don’t know.

Why is genre romance afraid of religion and sex in the same story?

It’s troubled me for some time, especially in the ’90s, writing genre romance, trying to fit, unhappy with the fact that if I wanted to write an older virgin (or at least not-very-experienced) heroine, I had to make her all angsty and in need of therapy to justify it. I didn’t need all my heroines to be virgins, but…just…one, maybe? By choice? With a religious reason?

I explored this fear of sexuality through one of my characters because I felt I had to explain that his whole life had been defined by (and made worse for) his fear that his sexuality had or would damn him–what he wanted versus what he thought was sinful. By doing that, I hoped to encapsulate our entire culture in him. I still don’t know if I got it right.

I want to “amen” your whole comment, really, and I look forward to your posts on it. And good luck on your doctoral work.